1. Use your body language
Usually, but not always, physical attraction is the instigator for a conversation, or that first introduction. It may not be love at first sight, but more likely attraction at first sight. For example, we like the fit, healthy bodies of those Calvin Klein underwear models because, “attractiveness may [unconsciously] provide a clue to health and reproductive fitness,” Fanelli says.
2. Be a copy-cat
According to Fanelli, similarity to a person is another important factor in attraction. We like people who are similar to ourselves. It’s that butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling you get when, the more you talk with someone, the more you find out you have in common. “These matches may be conscious, for example two athletes, or people with similar extracurricular interests, or unconscious, like finding out you enjoy the same music,” Fanelli says.
3. Keep him close by
You see him once, and think he’s cute. See him twice, and you smile at each other. See him a third time, and you’ll want to say hi. This is the basic idea behind the attraction theory of proximity. “We like familiarity,” Fanelli says. “If you’re attracted to something, the more often you see it, the more attracted you’ll become.”
4. Spill the beans
Revealing things about who you are can help raise your attractiveness. It creates a closeness to that person, and lets him feel closer to you. “You have to learn to trust the person, before you can move to deeper levels of self disclosure.”
5. Get his adrenaline pumping
If you want to make him fall for you, take him on a roller coaster. It may not be that simple, but Fanelli says adrenaline is sometimes misattributed to arousal. “Excitement generates a level of attractiveness,” Fanelli says. “People who experience similar arousal find each other more attractive,” Fanelli explains.
6. Make him a cuddle fan
When you first fall for him, he’s usually all you can think about. Fanelli says this is part of the early ‘lust’ experience of attraction. “It’s the release of dopamine and endorphins in your brain,” he says. “It’s a cocaine-kind of rush – part of a chemical reaction”.
7. Fanelli’s attraction formula
Find your own happiness Fanelli says that ultimately, attraction comes down to the fact that interesting people are interesting to be with. “Rather than spending your time trying to lure him in, remember that people who are comfortable with themselves are interesting because they’re doing things that make them happy,” he says, “and that’s very attractive."
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