There will never be a time in the near future where casual sex will carry completely positive connotations in our world. I guess it does have the odds stacked against it that way- society frowns upon such perceived 'risks' that have a strong oral history of nightmarish stories. Everyone knows someone who has had that one hookup from hell, or at least is a friend of a friend of this individual.
But think of it this way, unless you're hooking up with someone who is completely at odds with you or is indeed the devil incarnate (there is no doubt that this indeed is a possibility), how much more damaging could casual sex be to a person psychologically than a relationship that has trudged along sourly for years with a background score of repression and unexpressed intentions? And come on, we all know at least one person who's been in a bad relationship, or have been a friend of a friend of such an individual.
Ultimately The Choice Is Personal
Nobody can truly bandy about the benefits of casual sex like there are certain universally applicable truths about it. It all comes down to your disposition at the end of it all. You might just not be into the whole idea, and that's as healthy as having any other approach to it . It also largely depends on what you're looking for, some folks just want to have a good time and some folks want something a little more serious. And here's where casual sex goes against conventional wisdom , because both of these needs can be addressed in it's spectrum. Casual sex can lead to you having more stable emotional and sexual relationships. Don't buy it? Well, here are a few ways it can actually be constructive.
Casual Sex Can Be Empowering
We know, the word empowerment is thrown around too lightly these days, it almost loses currency. But in a society that is saturated with the message that they need commitment before enjoying sex, there’s real strength in freeing their sex drive from conservative expectations.Some women don’t need a deep spiritual connection in order to enjoy sexual pursuits and some men do; the old stereotypes aren’t at all useful in charting the course of your own desires, and breaking outdated expectations through experience could lead you to a better understanding of your own sexuality.
It Might Help You Open Up More
New relationships are fraught with anxieties. There's always the constant pressure to please the other person and we want them to think well of us, because we think highly of them and we want to make the connection last. Above all, we definitely don’t want to weird them out with our strange fantasies and secret turn-ons. We save that type of honesty for much later, when we feel safer. Essentially, the stakes aren't as high with a sexual partner, we can shed our egos, open up and learn a little bit about ourselves along the way too.
You Might Learn More About Yourself Emotionally Too
Having frequent sexual encounters might be an indicator to yourself that you’re enjoying single life and not ready for anything longer-term, or may prove to you that you feel the best sexually and emotionally when you’re serious about someone. Either way, it will be a discovery about yourself that you’ve tested out, not something you assumed out of traditional stereotypes and notions about sex and relationships.
By Rheea Mukherjee. Rheea spent most of her life moving between the US and India. In 2011, she decided enough was enough and moved back to Bangalore for good where she founded Write Leela Write with her friend Kala. Rheea writes awesome blogs and other things for Lovetreats. She loves dogs, attempts yoga and fantasizes about becoming vegan. Rheea also just published her first book, "Transit For Beginners"!