Offering a massage is a great way to woo your partner into bed. Tickle the right pressure points to help your partner relax and to get both of you in the mood!
A few general tips: Use prolonged finger pressure directly on the point; gradual, steady, penetrating pressure for approximately three minutes is ideal. Each point will feel somewhat different when you press it; some points feel tense, while others are often sore or ache when pressed. How much pressure to apply to any point depends on your partner's feedback. A general guideline to follow is that the pressure should be firm enough so that it "hurts good" - in other words, something between pleasant, firm pressure and outright pain. Ask your partner what feels good for them!
- Head massage
Massaging the head and neck areas actually helps lower this activity out of the head and back to the core of the body. With our frantic, productivity-driven lives, we often invest too much of our body’s resources in our brains and this can get in the way of foreplay. Massage your partner's head and neck in circular motions, using all fingers and apply a good amount of pressure.
- Foot massage
Focus on the bottom of the foot, about a third of the way down; inside the foot, at the base of the toe. Gently rub the bottom of the foot and Spleen, which are both located on the feet. These are considered very powerful points for balancing the subtle energies in the body while simultaneously promoting an increase in blood flow to the core of the body. Both of these points are directly and intimately connected to both the male and female reproductive organs… helloooo, sexy time!
- Calf massage
Start inside the calves, two fingers above the ankle. It is thought to promote the yang, warming energy in the body. Said to promote the yin, calming energy in the body. These points are perfect representations of male and female energy, according to Chinese medicine. These are closely associated, promoting healthy blood flow — which is no surprise as healthy blood flow and arousal certainly go hand in hand.
- Belly rub
Start two finger spaces down from the belly button. Belly points can be very tender and since they’re located closer to our reproductive organs and the parts we use in sex, massaging these points should be done with a bit of caution and extra care. Since it’s also located on the most calming point of all acupuncture channels, it makes a wonderfully balanced point. So massage with care as this can help nurture a sense of intimacy and arousal all at once.