6 Commonly Believed but Completely Untrue
Things about Sex Toys
Remember watching a romantic scene on TV with your parents and squirming in your seat? Rewind to the time college friends dared you to buy condoms at the chemist and you tried not to erupt into nervous giggles as you looked at the cashier? While we may be all grown-ass men and women now, given our desi upbringing, it can still be uncomfortable talking about or buying any product related to intimacy, health and - well - sex!
There, we said the S word without giggling nervously. Phew. And this discomfort may extend to buying an intimate toy. Yes, today, online shopping means you don’t have to go to the trouble of visiting a seedy store in the back alleys of your local Burma Bazaar, but we still need to talk about all the questions, myths, judgements and misinformation around sex toys.
So here are the 6 Commonly Believed But Completely Untrue Things about Sex Toys that we are delighted to dish on:
1. “If I suggest buying a sex toy, I am afraid my partner will think I am too wild. I don’t want to replace my boyfriend with a battery operated toy.” - Nervous Neeta
Most men would love to be with a woman who is confident and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. Have you considered that your new age, progressive boyfriend or husband may not be intimidated at the suggestion of using a sex toy together? He may just be excited to explore a new element to your lovemaking. And sex toys are not a replacement for a human being who can take steamy showers together, bring you flowers and reach for things on the topmost shelf! The next time you are hanging out, you may want to casually indicate your interest in sex toys and see how it goes. Just don’t whip out a monster dildo, without any warning, during the act and you should be fine.
2. “I am worried about my nosy neighbour finding out about my purchase, also isn't this stuff illegal in India?” - Shy Shantala
We are acutely conscious of your privacy, we know aunty and uncle next door may faint if they found out what’s in your mailbox. We also don’t want the postman giving you knowing looks, so when we launched in October 2015, Lovetreats ensured that all its packaging would be logo free and discreet. And sex toys in India are NOT illegal. India has certain dated and vague laws governing ‘obscenity’, and as a retailer, Lovetreats presents products and descriptions tastefully keeping these norms in mind, and ensures that the products are 100% legal.
3. “Using a sex toy means I am a certified loser who cannot get laid, worse, if people knew, they will think I am some kind of psycho who thinks about sex 24/7.” - Panicked Pankaj
Woah, hold on. Single people aren’t losers who magically transform into happy bunnies once they find their perfect partner. And individuals who want to be sexually satisfied are not perverts, but without going deep into Dr. Phil territory, let us just say that sex toys are used by happily single and awww-inducing couples alike. There are toys for everyone and buying and using your first sex toy does not make you a loser. Far from it - it shows a willingness that you are ready to take your pleasure *ahem* into your own hands, or are open and confident enough to explore new, exciting sensations with a partner.
4. “Why would I need a sex toy when I am young, healthy, and have great fun between the sheets? These products are only for people with sexual problems.” - Studboy Salim
It is a myth that adult toys are only for people who have a problem in the bedroom. While toys can help take the pressure off couples and have been known to help women achieve orgasms more easily, they are equally useful in spicing up your routine. If anything your woman will be impressed that you are finding ways to make her feel even better and will be more than happy to return the favour. So you have nothing to lose except your inhibitions.
5. “Sex toys sometimes look scary. Could it injure me or a partner? What if it causes infections or other complications?” - Hesitant Hema
All our toys come with detailed product descriptions that indicate how they are to be used. Depending upon your comfort, you can start with easy to use toys that are suited for beginners. Moreover, Lovetreats focuses on stocking non-intimidating, sleek toys for women. Also, Lovetreats only retails products from top quality tested brands, made of medical grade silicone that are hygienic and safe for repeated use.
6. “I am sexually fairly inexperienced but curious. I'm not sure if there any toys for beginners like me.” - Curious Kamini
Absolutely, you can start off with buying racy lingerie, massage products or just use a blindfold to amp up sensations. Whether you are exploring your body by yourself or with a partner you may want to try lubricants or even invest in a tried and tested toy perfect for beginners, like a bullet vibrator, which is discreet, easy to carry, and focused on enhancing female pleasure.
Watch this space for more blogs on the best toys for beginners!
Written by Bala Owner.