The success of a book like 50 Shades Of Grey doesn't mean that our culture is suddenly enamoured with bondage. Nor is bondage a product of modernity. In fact, it's a rather old idea, and the primal nature of the act is more or less reflective of its antiquity.
The walls of Pompeii speak of it in a manner that makes it almost seem blasé.
So what is the allure of bondage, and why is it an idea that has endured through the ages? These are complex questions which we can perhaps even analyse from an evolutionary level. But the simple, observable facts are the following - being physically restrained causes a huge adrenaline rush, being reprimanded or punished in a controlled setting can be rather thrilling - something that may appease some subconscious Freudian urge, and being blindfolded intensifies other senses.
Acting out our fantasies in a safe, comfortable environment with a person we can trust is probably the most constructive way to celebrate them. So if you're looking to getting into bondage, here are some tips you ought to keep in mind.
Make Sure Your Partner Is Into It
First off, bondage with near strangers can be a pretty dicey affair. So make sure you're doing this with a partner you trust and feel comfortable with. Drop hints here and there to gauge if they are into it. "Maybe we could try a blindfold?". It's a pretty simple way to get a sense of a person's enthusiasm, and if it feels right, open it up for further conversation, and you're on your way.
Establish A Safe Word
Bondage can be a great way to spice up your sex life, but there is a fine line between being dominated and being abused and humiliated. Before you engage in any bondage, always, always (we can't stress this enough) agree on a safe word. A safe word makes it possible for someone to stop play when it becomes too much. When picking a safe word, try not to veer towards anything that you scream out too often while having sex. Think of something arbitrary, like 'Giraffe' or something. Now, if you're into gagging, make sure that you establish a safe gesture instead.
Keep It Simple To Start With
What are the basics? I guess it's reasonable that people get carried away by starting a new dimension to their sex lives, but try and start simple. In most cases, the simple stuff works out in the long run and gives us our kicks. Blindfolds are a natural sensory wonder; they open up a new sensory field for you! Then there's spanking, which is simple enough and fun for people who like it. Simple things like this will help you understand your penchant for bondage a little better.
