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Bondage For Beginners

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The success of a book like 50 Shades Of Grey isn't indicative of a culture that is suddenly enamored by the idea of bondage. Nor is bondage a product of modernity. In fact, it's a rather old idea, and the primal nature of the act is more or less reflective of its antiquity.

The walls of Pompeii speak of it in a manner that makes it almost seem blase. So what is the allure of bondage, why is it an idea that has endured the ages? There are probably complex answers to this question, it can perhaps even be analysed from an evolutionary level. But the simple, observable principle is this - being physically restrained causes a huge adrenaline rush, being reprimanded or punished in a controlled setting can be rather thrilling - something that appeases our subconscious Freudian urges and being blindfolded intensifies our other senses.

We can't really arrive at a value judgement for our collective fantasies, and being able to act out our fantasies in a safe, comfortable environment with a person we can trust is probably the most constructive way to deal with them. So if you're looking to getting into bondage, here are some tips you ought to keep in mind.

Make Sure Your Partner Is Into It

First off, bondage with near strangers can be a pretty messy affair. So make sure you're doing this with a partner you trust and feel comfortable with. The best way to go about gauging if the other person is into it is by dropping a feel hints here and there. "Maybe we could try a blindfold?". It's pretty simple to analyse a person's enthusiasm when you drop hints like this, try and open up the floor for further conversation and you're on your way.

Establish A Safe Word

Before you engage in any kind of bondage, always, always (we can't stress this enough) agree on a safe word. A safe word makes it possible for someone to say stop or enough when it all becomes too much for them to handle. When picking a safe word, try not to veer towards anything that you scream out too often while having sex. Think of something arbitrary, like 'Giraffe' or something. Now if you're into gagging, make sure that you establish a safe gesture instead. Bondage can be a great way to spice up your sex life, but there is a very fine line between being dominated and being abused and humiliated.

Keep It Simple To Start With

I guess it's reasonable that people get carried away by the initiation of a new dimension to their sex lives, but try and start out simple. In most cases, it's the simple stuff that works out for us in the long run and gives us our kicks. What are the basics? Well, blindfolds are a real sensory wonder, it opens up a whole new sensory field that you probably weren't aware of! Then there's spanking, which is simple enough and fun for people who like it. Simple things like this will help you understand your penchant for bondage a little better.


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