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How often have you wondered what sex during periods would feel like? Did you ever stop yourself fearing the messiness or what your partner would think?
Twenty seven year old Rushali P thinks that having sex during periods is one of the most pleasurable times to have sex. She also thinks that women don’t go forward with it fearing their partner wouldn’t like it. Instead, she wants men to get over their fear of a menstruating woman and join them in the bedroom when their libido is running high.
She isn’t the only one to think so. Another twenty-something woman Mangala wouldn’t have any problem with period sex if the problem with leakage was taken care of and her partner was on-board.
“If we’re using stainless sheets or doing it in the washroom I don’t see why not,” she said. “I masturbate even during periods,” she added.
But people like Rushali and M are far and few. Most cases are like Neha S who says her boyfriend is okay with it, but she feels weird about it.
“I find it messy. Extremely! Blood and smell. Both are going to turn me off! Never!” she said.
Majority of the women I spoke to think like Neha. To them, I’d say, don’t write it off because like Rushali said it is one of the times when sex is most pleasurable and your libido is right up there.
Maybe, what irks us about having sex when menstruating is associated with how society associates shame and taboo with this normal bodily function?
Imagine a situation where your partner (male/female) is fine with having sex when you’re bleeding and you are the only person stopping yourself from trying out something different. Would you stop yourself because society told you being on periods is dirty or would you venture out and take control of what you want in the bedroom?
Everything should be tried once after all and nobody is getting hurt. You can always stop if you’re experiencing discomfort or pain. Moreover, having sex during periods can be somewhat like the first time you did it. A little messy, a little awkward and you were somewhat sore. Sex or not, periods are anyway going to make you feel that way. And what better time to do something that would give you pleasure than during those five to seven days of the month when you need an instant lift me up. The “happy” hormones you release afterwards will actually help with alleviating the cramps.
In case you and your partner decide to give it a try, here are some things that will make the experience pleasant.
Light some scented candles for the smell and natural light. If the smell bothers you, try lighting a scented oil like lemongrass. Keep an old towel to spread on the bedsheets and baby wipes to use during and after sex. You can also try this under the shower.
Also, don’t forget the condoms because being on periods isn’t necessarily going to prevent pregnancy. Neither does it stop spread of sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Alternatively, try out stringless tampons especially designed for sex during your period.
Whatever you ultimately choose to do, make sure that you and your partner are 100% on board. So ahead, and have some fun. This is what #realworldsex is all about.